Yoy get off the phone after a heated discussion and you realize, abiut twenty minutes too late that there were a number of ways you could have handled it better. You lay it on the cat, discussing what you should have said, told him off, been more upfront or hid your agenda better.
Cat don't care, he learned a long time ago that what was said cannot be unsaid, words, like water, flow under the bridge and are gone. Then you discuss it with someone else, and slowly your shoulda done become did do. The conversation starts to twist and blend into what you really think you said. You become bolder, brighter, more in tune and more to the point. You are a genius, you carried the team, urged on by someone who was not even there.
Cat still don't care, he knows you were a kitten and wilted like a pussy in the snow.
